We call it impossible if it is clear the love between the two of you aren’t going anywhere. When you love him yet he loves another and cannot leave them for you. When, he is Christian and you are Muslim, your religions differ and none of you is willing to shift to the others religion, then the love is impossible. Although, I have seen people from different religions achieving greater heights in love, but the road is always tough.
When your love seems impossible ,and you have to forget about it, how do you deal with it? One way or another, an impossible love is not an easy one to forget. It leaves profound marks, precisely because it was not lived or worn until the moment when it was necessary to renounce it: the idealization was not broken. But while you do not forget everything, you can process that feeling and set it aside to move on.
Define to yourself what makes this love an impossible love
There is a big difference between a challenging or conflicted love and an impossible love. The latter cannot exist. The most typical case, and also the one involving the most emotional difficulties, is that of someone who loves and is not reciprocated. It may be more accurate to say that one person loves and needs another, but this other does not feel the same. True love is always two. At the same time, it is also important to understand that there is a point where it is necessary to accept that the investment has no future.
Examine your fantasies about love
It is very common that the difficulty in renouncing an impossible love comes from some fantasies that have settled down in the culture. For example, the “half orange” or the “love of life.” From these imaginaries comes the idea that there is only one person “predestined” to be our partner.
Recognize the negative aspects of this relationship
Passion, not love, quickly leads us to idealize people and situations. Sometimes we project into them virtues and attributes that they do not really have, or that they only possess in a modest measure. To dilute these mental constructs, it is essential that we also evaluate the harmful elements of their interactions with us. If so, after asking yourself, in the end, your perspective will likely to be more realistic.
Accept candidly that it’s time to forget
This is the hardest step. It has been proven that when a person wants to be in a loving relationship with someone, and it is not possible, reactions are produced similarly to those that an addict has during the withdrawal syndrome. Emotional discomfort, and even physical discomfort, sometimes becomes difficult to tolerate. When you can admit it, you take the most crucial step towards liberation. This focuses on, empowers and clarifies the next steps to follow.
Delete Memories
Once you recognize that it is time to leave this impossible love behind, what follows is to begin the consistent cutting all the bonds that may still subsist. That means not calling, not trying new dates, keeping a distance from their friends, and keep doing whatever you can to break the ties you have with that person. In particular, cut all links in social networks: they are very treacherous.
In the same logic, it is necessary to suppress memories. Delete photos, get rid of gifts. If you are not ready to get rid of them, then gather everything and store everything in a hard-to-reach place.
That said, just deal with it, life happens, you are an adult and you can surely move on.
Wawu Gist 