Many are times mother and daughters have a perfect relationship especially when the daughter is still young. When the mom can dress her the way she wants, plait her hair the way she wants and do to her anything she feels like. At that age the relationship is still perfect because the girl is still young and the mother sees her as her perfect doll.
At this age, the daughter sees the mother as their role models and want to grow up to be like them. But as time goes by and the girl starts growing and developing different interests from the mom, the bond starts to be distracted. They suddenly become strangers and the girl no longer want to be “controlled” by the mother. This is because they have started to envision things personally band want to feel independent.
This is really heart breaking to the mothers who want to have the strong bond they once had with their daughters. Of cause all mothers want to remain relevant and have a significant bond to their daughters. But how do you do that?
Well it is easy, just understand that your little girl is growing and give her the chance to be herself. Don’t get mad because she no longer loves the clothes you used to buy for her and dress her in. Just support who she is turning out to be. Also remember to guide her, show her the right way and give her an opportunity to learn from her own mistakes.
Don’t assume that because they are grown, they no longer need you, always avail yourself to them and be at their disposal, Offer your advice but don’t pin her down to follow it, Show her love and don’t make it look like you are competing for anything whatsoever with her.
Wawu Gist 